Untangling Our Relationships

By Alex York • February 16, 2020

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Sermon Notes

As we discuss tools to untangle our relationships, let's remember this promise from God:

A promise to remember:

"[God]… is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us…" (Ephesians 3:20) 

10 Tools to Untangle Relationships, Whether the Tangles are Major or Minor

1. Time & Distance

"They had such a sharp disagreement that they parted company. Barnabas took Mark and sailed for Cyprus, but Paul chose Silas and left, commended by the believers to the grace of the Lord. He went through Syria and Cilicia, strengthening the churches. (Acts 15:39-41)

2. Forgiveness

"And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” (Mark 11:25)

"The love of Jesus Christ covers your sins, and it also gives you the power to let other people off the hook. You’ve been forgiven, and you can forgive others.
" – Rick Warren

3. Prayer

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." (Philippians 4:6-7)

4. Words

"My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." (James 1:19)

"…speaking the truth in love…" (Ephesians 4:15)

5. Wise Counsel

"The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice." (Proverbs 12:15)

6. Introspection

"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye." (Matthew 7:1-5)

"The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out." (Proverbs 20:5)

See also Jeremiah 17:9 and Psalm 139:23-24.

7. Initiative

"Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift." (Matthew 5:23-24)

"All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors…" (2 Corinthians 5:18-20)

8. Humility

"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross!" (Philippians 2:3-8)

9. Boundaries

Any confusion of responsibility and ownership in our lives is a problem of boundaries. Just as homeowners set physical property lines around their land, we need to set mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual boundaries for our lives to help us distinguish what is our responsibility and what isn’t…the inability to set appropriate boundaries at appropriate times with the appropriate people can be very destructive. — Henry Cloud and John Townsend, in Boundaries

See also:

  • The 10 Commandments
  • Galatians 6:7
  • 2 Thessalonians 3:10

10. Blessing

"Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord." (Romans 12:17-19)

See also: Philippians 3:9

Listen to the full message: