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How to Deal with How You Feel - Depression

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This Sunday, Pastor Ed continued his series "How to Deal with How You Feel," looking at the topic of Depression.

Over 9 million Americans have depression, so this is an important topic.

We looked at Psalm 42-43, not a psalm about depression, but a psalm written in and from depression.

Three Epic, Liberating Truths:

1)  Depression affects our spirits.

It affects our ability to detect God's presence.  In Psalm 42:1, this is the thirst of the desert.

Depression is an emotional disorder, but it affects us physically and spiritually, too.  There's no great wall separating our emotions from the rest of us.

-- If you're depressed, reject the thinking that you are actually distant from God.  (Don't allow your feelings to be omnipotent.)  Your nearness to God doesn't depend on your sense of his presence.

Don't surrender spiritual ground in the midst of depression.

-- Spiritual problems require spiritual solutions.

You must do spiritual work to adequately deal with depression.

Also do physical work to combat it, and emotional work.

2)  Circumstances often aggravate depression.

The psalmist has a wonderful memory of worshiping at Jerusalem, but he's now far to the north.  He's overwhelmed, and he's surrounded by a pack of skeptics.

-- When you experience depression, examine your circumstances and change what you can.

Possibly change your physical regimen.

Lean more completely into your support network.  (Don't worry!  This is what we're here for!)

*Be careful about making major life changes when depressed.*

-- Pray for either a change in circumstances or the ability to weather the circumstances.  (43:3)

3)  Depression is not a form of unfaithfulness and does not have to result in unfaithfulness.

The psalmist holds onto his faith.

-- You can battle depression!

Do some spiritual work!

*Pray!  (42:3)

We hear three voices -- our voice, God's voice, and the voice of the enemy.  We can battle that third voice.

*Rehearse what you know to be true.

*Remember past times with God and what God has done.

-- Be realistic about your happiness.

The world is tough, but tough times can drive us to God.


We finished the service with prayer and Communion.

What do you think about these ideas?  What helps you when you're down?

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How to Deal with How You Feel - Anger

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Today's sermon continued the series "How to Deal with How You Feel," looking at the emotion of Anger.

The Scripture passage was a short one, Ephesians 4:26-27.

Our hearts are important.  This can be seen in Proverbs -- 4:23; 14:30; 15:13; and 17:22.

Our emotional life is critically important to our overall health.

Dangers to avoid:  Ascribing omnipotence to our emotions or denying them.

Anger is especially susceptible to denial.

Anger is a secondary emotion.  It surfaces from hurt or frustration.  It's more powerful, less vulnerable than those emotions.

Scripture makes it clear there's a way of being angry that's not sinful.  God gets angry (Psalm 7:11; Exodus 4:14; Mark 3:5).

Identifying sinful anger:

1)  When it's for the wrong reason.  (Selfish)

2)  When it controls us.  Prov. 16:32

3)  When it becomes the dominant feature in our lives.  Prov. 19:19 (There are consequences.)

4)  When it is brooding or fretting.  Psalm 37:8

5)  When it keeps a running record of how you've been mistreated.  I Cor. 13:5

Sometimes we ball up our wrongs and keep them in the freezer.  Then we bring out the ice pellets in a surprise attack.

6)  When we pretend not to be angry.  Eph. 4:25

7)  When we return evil for evil or attack the one with whom we're angry.

8)  When it drives us to attack a substitute.

Why do we get angry?

1)  We don't deal with our emotions healthily and honestly; we push frustration or hurt or insecurity underground.

Pastor Ed gave a personal story.  He's found that every time he was angry with his wife, he was feeling minimized.  But hadn't necessarily noticed that feeling.

Pushing hurt underground brings out anger.

This happens through denial or immaturity or lack of emotional discipline.

2)  We see anger modeled and we internalize it.

This isn't about blaming, but about getting to the solution.

3)  We don't bond healthily.

Anger is a natural protest to isolation.

Jesus is the only place where the true need for deep bonding can really be met.

4)  We don't sort good and bad well.

We see the world in black and white, which causes perfectionism, judgmentalism, guilt, etc.

How do we move forward less angrily?

1)  Do not hang out with an angry person.  Proverbs 22:24-25

Are their angry people in your life?  Do your environments nurse your anger?

Step away.  Do the work.

2)  Accept the gift of limits.

You're limited: Accept it, welcome it.

Jesus regularly retreated from crowds.

What mattered to Jesus wasn't his limits, but his mission.

Also accept the limits of those around us.

This is work you must allow God's spirit to do in you.

3)  Check your anger meter.  Proverbs 29:11

You have the capacity to keep your anger under control.

Check with the people you know and love.

If you're asked, "Why are you so angry?" stop and check!

You're not alone.  This is work you must allow God's people to speak into.

Do I have an anger problem?

4)  Get some exercise.


Also from Ephesians 4, "Do not give the devil a foothold."  We live spiritual lives whether we believe it or not.  We're surrounded by spiritual beings and some of them mean us harm.

Anger gives the devil a megaphone.


What's your reaction to the thoughts here?  Do comment below!

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